It’s been on my heart for months but I just could never seem to find the time or the right words to sit and write. But it’s never far from my mind when I sit and look at her everyday.
I look at her and hope she knows how worthy she is. I hope she knows how beautiful she is. I hope she knows how loved she is, because I know one day soon those days will come where she will question all of them. But here is a chance for all you teenage girls to show her that these truths will always stay the same. Why you? You are her next step in life, so right now she idolizes you.
So Dear Teenage Girls,
I know the last thing you probably care about is how you are reflecting to little girls who have no idea what you are going through. But just for moment think of how much those little girls are looking up to you. You are helping shape what kind of young lady they will grow up to be.
Maybe today you need a reminder of some of things to help you keep going. Do you know how worthy you are? You dear girl were so fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14) Please remember that. No one can take that worth away. Those crappy things you went through or are going through, those don’t take your worth away. They add to it because even through it, Jesus still loves you! I remember those days of not even knowing what worthy meant, it wasn’t even in my vocabulary. Then when I learned about worth, I told myself it was already too late. I had too much shame in my life, I’d already done too much wrong. But then God took hold of me and said No! I created you and nothing I create is bad.
Oh sweet girl, you are beautiful, so so beautiful! That make up, hair and clothes, that’s only a reflection of the outside. (1 Peter 3:3-4) Inside though, that’s where the true beauty is created. Those boys that only see the outside beauty, they aren’t seeing through Christ’s eyes. He knows what’s really inside waiting for the rest of the world to see. I know it’s so hard when we live in a world where we need to look a certain way and be a certain way. Those were such hard days especially as a teen girl who is still trying to find her way but try not to focus too much on the outside when inside there is still so much greatness to come.
You are loved! Are you hearing me? You are loved! This one is so tough to understand. We want our parents to love us, we want our friends to love us and we even want the boys to love us. But their love will never be enough. Only Christ’s love will ever be enough. This caused me so much pain for so many years as I looked for love from all the wrong people. I never even knew what true love meant until a few years ago and I am way past my teen years. I pray you can learn about it way before I did, maybe it’ll save you some pain. Don’t go seeking love because you are already loved so much by the most important person. (John 3:16)
So teenage girls, please don’t think I’m adding pressure on you to be a certain way. Consider it an opportunity to show these little girls how much of difference they can make before reaching adulthood.
Fearful Mother of a Daughter